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Shea Aaron's avatar

I've been thinking recently about how societal pressures/norms are slowly making women less and less competent at, well, being women. For example, a couple I know (both with full-time jobs) recently went to a "Parent/Teacher Conference" for their 6 month-old hosted by their daycare. There's obviously a lot we could say about why that's preposterous, but I keep thinking about how many moms I know who seem to have conceded their rightful place as "mother." Husband and wife share equally the duty of giving the baby a bottle. Dad attends every single well check-up with the mom and baby. Both mother and father have the same app on their phones where they track the baby's growth, number of wet diapers produced, and ounces of milk consumed...the list goes on. Then in the home, all duties are shared equally. And by that I mean, neither person really *knows* how to cook meals from real ingredients rather than just warm something up. Neither person really *knows* what needs to be done to clean a bathroom. Neither person really *knows* if the baby is getting sick because she's unusually fussy, feels a little warm, and hasn't been nursing well. In the end, the duties aren't shared equally...it just seems to me that the mom has lost her special place as the heart of the home. She concedes it - perhaps without ever realizing it was meant to be hers. Obviously surrogacy is outright evil for other reasons, but also, think of what the mother loses by conceding the chance to carry a child in her womb, to birth him and nurse him at her breast, and to know him more intimately (at least when he's very little) than anyone else on the planet? What a tragedy.

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whitney's avatar

IVF is the same as prostitution - objectifying and commodifying the female body by separating love from procreation.

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