The controlled opposition that is the Trad Wife phenomenon
Christian marriage is neither a matter of equality or lording it over
I usually keep the themes of my two blogs fairly separate, but today’s Like Mother, Like Daughter post could very well have appeared here.
It starts:
Enemies of our happiness exist. They will find ways to penetrate the chinks! It's hard to know every meaning of Our Lord's warning, “Narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it,” but one thing that comes to mind is how easy it is for us to be sidetracked and made discontent, even when we've made a positive commitment to what we know is good.
When people begin to find solidarity with others and affirmation for doing things the world is set against, like turning away from the conflict-driven mode of feminism and marxism in general and seeking a more peaceful way of life, a strange thing starts to happen.
It's almost as if the forces of destruction get nervous and twitchy at any sign of resistance and have to come up with something to destabilize our intentions.
You start to see something you might not have expected. It's not direct opposition, because leftism knows it has no arguments and most importantly, no counter-examples. There is no demographic or population of happy, contented feminists who can be observed directly and held up as the beneficent outcome of revolution, making it all worthwhile (so if you are inclined to comment something about how you're a cheerful feminist, try not to, because this empirical fact cannot be assailed by anecdote). The best they can do is say that there isn't enough feminism, which of course is an unverifiable way to go about things.
Here's the new tactic I'm talking about: Right now I'd love to write something encouraging here, offering my experience, including the things I failed at, to help you be more content in making your home, for the very good reason that the home is uniquely important, and while someone has to earn money to finance it, the wife keeping it, in love and devotion, is what makes the world go round. But I'm having trouble, because just at the moment when I think a lot more people (men and women) are open to hearing this truth, having seen the utter destruction of feminism all around us, and getting practical ideas about how to make it a reality, that twitchy gaze I was talking about turns on some public self-proclaimed exemplars of, well, let's use the term, “Trad Wife” life.
Maybe most of us weren't paying that much attention. But the critiques bring up my own unease with those claiming to represent something I thought many were wanting to give a try. Suddenly very online enemies of home, children, and men (yes, they really are), who, to be very clear, have their own agenda, start exposing what they see as the underbelly of the perfect picture of domestic bliss.
Just so you know... I love your 2 blogs and adore you and Phil exchanging thoughts as husband and wife. Please do not stop. Anel
Hear, hear! Enjoy your posts here and over at your blog. Love the conversations between you and your husband on the podcast. Please keep them coming they are refreshing and insightful!